Dear Dr. Date,
More than a year ago, I started going out with this girl whom I had known for about four years prior to us going out. She was the most wonderful person I had ever met. After about two months of going out, we fell in love with each other. Soon after that, she became everything I had ever wished. She always did little stuff that made me feel like I was the luckiest man alive. She was there for me through some of my hard times, and she always said that she would always love me and never let me go.
At the start of this semester, however, I wasn’t sure where my life was going, and I needed to find out some stuff about myself. I moved to a dorm after living with her for about eight months. Even though I was confused at the time, the only thing that was clear to me was my love for her. She didn’t like the fact that I moved out, and I don’t blame her. I still tried to spend as much time with her as I could, but we slowly started to drift apart. We also started to argue frequently, to the point where about a month ago, she told me that we needed a break from each other.
At first I didn’t like it, but I went along. While we were separated, a guy who is much older than she is walked into her life. Now she wants to be with him. She also tells me that she still loves me. She says she just needs time to figure things out. Yet she continues to see this older guy. So here’s my question: Should I continue to wait for her even though she’s pushing me away and hurting me? I know things are confusing for her, but I love her so much. She means the world to me, and I don’t think I can live without her. What should I do?

Both of you need to go on with your new lives. It’s going to be hard, but it will be best in the end. This means that over the next few weeks, or even months, you might feel like crumbling, but you are resilient, and this whole experience will make you stronger and better.
It’s ridiculous to wait around for this woman while she is seeing someone else. I’m not telling you that you’ll never be together again, but you need to put it all out of your mind and concentrate on some good things. It would be a shame if you missed the opportunity to start your next fantastic relationship because you were so focused on reviving one that is unlikely to stir again.
(Question of the Week: Why is female-female sex fascinating to so many straight men?)