Using the master’s tools

Another relationship book spells out what you already knew

by Katrina Wilber

There might be a lot more single women out there soon, thanks to this book.

Come to think of it, there’ll probably be a lot more single men, too.

“He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys” uncovers the ways men subtly attempt to tell women they’re, unfortunately, just not that into them without having to admit it. The book cracks numerous relationship facades, such as the “but he’s got a lot on his mind” and the “he just got out of a relationship” excuses. Oh, and don’t forget about the “I’m just not ready” and the “but then he wants to get back together” situations.

Behrendt and Tuccillo, who worked on the wildly popular “Sex and the City,” got the idea for the book one day at work. One of the show’s writers, a “beautiful, talented, super-smart girl,” was unsure of where she stood with a man she had gone out with a few times. She asked Behrendt for advice, and he simply said, “It sounds like he’s just not that into you.”

Nobody ever wants to say that. Nobody wants to tell a hopeful friend that the relationship won’t go any further because the feelings aren’t reciprocal. Nobody, that is, except Behrendt and Tuccillo.

While it’s a good concept, the book over-generalizes. “He’s Just Not That Into You” will probably make every involved woman question her relationship and the man she’s with, for better or worse. Apparently, he’s not worth it if he only calls once a day when he’s away or doesn’t ask for sex on the first date. They also insist that once a couple breaks up the two people will never get back together.

“He’s Just Not That Into You” is a question-and-answer, he said/she said book. Each chapter has five or six situations that the authors proceed to rip apart, along with real-life examples and little ego-boosting mantras.

There is hope, though. There are exceptions to every rule, even when it comes to the tricky, snake-filled pit of intimate relationships.

The authors try to convey a buddy-buddy sense with the reader, a sense that they’re rooting for you, but the puerile style of writing is more suitable for diaries kept by middle school girls. It’s debatable whether something titled “Our Super-Good Really Helpful Workbook” can offer that much good advice.

“He’s Just Not That Into You” is still a witty and entertaining book, as long as it isn’t taken too seriously.

Sure, women are supposed to revel in the dissection of relationships and quest for the answer to “he loves me, he loves me not.”

Behrendt and Tuccillo think they’ve just made it that much easier to figure out.